I feel like an outsider.

Subject: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 8:02 pm

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Ok, so in real life, I'm not exactly a social butterfly. Everywhere I go, I'm known as the quiet person. Especially at school with my classmates. As a result, my life is tough for me because people look at you and treat you differently when you're shy. I can decide to say something one moment and then people will go "SHE TALKS??!!!". It annoys me. My shyness is partly due to the bullying I experienced when I was younger and my low self-esteem and such. I have little to no friends and the real actual friends I have had in total are only a couple. Most of the people in my class are only my acquaintances. I might be friendly with them but it doesn't get any better than that. It doesn't help that I am socially awkward, I'm clumsy, and I am scared everyday when I walk through the hallways. I can't even talk to people without them thinking I'm weird, like I could say something that's not even remotely offensive and then the people I'm with will just glare at each other like I'm a fool. This has caused me to internalize my feelings because I don't want to look or say something bad. Whenever I even try to be social, it just backfires on me. I'm a really smart person too, but despite my academic achievements, there hasn't been a day when I haven't gone home depressed and stressed about my social status. In fact I am constantly worried and stressed out about how I am perceived by other people. People see me as a smart and gifted person too but I guess they only care about me when I can use intelligence to help them in class, such as when we're reviewing things or tests or playing review games and you get prizes at the end.

I always have trouble especially with group work, not just in school, but primarily because no one will naturally come up to me and ask me to be their partner. I would have to hunt for one on my own and many times I would have no luck because one group would be full and then another one would be full. I always have to ask can I join someone's group and I never liked working with the same people in a row because I don't think people think I'm cool enough in the first place and I get worried that they might get tired of me. I'm such a quiet person that no knows I'm there. Once in a while, people will come to me and try to be friendly, and I'm a nice person and don't want to push them away but I get mad because I feel as if they're doing this just out of pity, not because they want to hang out with me and I don't want to be in that position. This happened to me a while ago and some girls saw me sitting alone and started talking to me but I didn't want them to feel like they were looking after me. One of the girls only "befriended" me because one of the adults told them. I don't want people to think I'm anti-social. I'm not, I just lack the skills to actually interact with people. It's so bad that really the only real friends I have had have either disappeared or forgotten about me, or they are online here. I feel comfortable talking to some of you guys but I resent having to go out into the real world. I'm older now and it's easier for me to socialize with other people but it's still really bad. I know this was long but I just wanted to say how I feel. Hopefully, I didn't scare anyone.

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:03 pm

Look, if they don't like you, don't sweat it! As you get older you'll find more people like you, and eventually you'll find more (I'm saying more because the forum is not chopped liver) friends. It might not be now, but it will happen.

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:04 pm

Anya,dear you're able to control your weight.. If a 300 pounds woman could do it you could do it!

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:12 pm

Awesomesauce wrote:: Look, if they don't like you, don't sweat it! As you get older you'll find more people like you, and eventually you'll find more (I'm saying more because the forum is not chopped liver) friends. It might not be now, but it will happen.

Thanks. haha chopped liver :lol!:

SarahTheGirlieGamer wrote:: Anya,dear you're able to control your weight.. If a 300 pounds woman could do it you could do it!

Uhh what woman Lol

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:17 pm

Now I'm embarrassed Sarah! I'm doing fine thank you!

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:26 pm

I'm not kidding.. You should not be embarrassed or feel insecure what-so-ever it's your body and you have to be proud of it! Keep it the way you like it!

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:54 pm

SarahTheGirlieGamer wrote:: I'm not kidding.. You should not be embarrassed or feel insecure what-so-ever it's your body and you have to be proud of it! Keep it the way you like it!

Mmmm good advice for us ladehhs

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 11:37 pm

Yeah.. Because we're beautiful no matter how we look like.. But sometimes visiting the doctor could be helpful!

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 11:41 pm

I kind of have the same problem but it's with teachers. But some other students bother me too.
If I say something to my bestie, the gym teacher or someone will be like "WHAT? SHE CAN TALK?". Or something like that. It gets annoying. I talk a LOT just not during class. So they think I'm a goody-goody and make fun of me for it.

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 11:57 pm

Okay.. If the teachers do it.. Then it's serious.. You should report them!

Subject: Re: I feel like an outsider. Thu Apr 04, 2013 11:58 pm

Winxrox466 wrote:: I kind of have the same problem but it's with teachers. But some other students bother me too.
If I say something to my bestie, the gym teacher or someone will be like "WHAT? SHE CAN TALK?". Or something like that. It gets annoying. I talk a LOT just not during class. So they think I'm a goody-goody and make fun of me for it.

Omg its terrible. Yeah I hate when people do that to me but a teacher should never treat a student like that.

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